Dating with no intention to marry

A Foreign woman who marries a Pakistani man may find herself spun in a web of deception.

Many of the women marry these men without knowing the truth.

Although most of the women don’t know that the Pakistani man uses those qualities to trap them.

It’s important to realize that some of these men are deceitful.

They probably had an “arranged marriage.” When the man has more than one wife, it makes him polygamous. Furthermore, he gives the foreign wife excuses as to why he could not defy his mother. Suddenly, the foreign wife becomes distraught when she learns of her husband’s other marriage.

Often these Pakistani men never take the foreign wives to Pakistan to meet their families, relatives, or friends. Although the reason is cultural, he may say it’s Islam. It doesn’t matter if it was an arranged marriage or otherwise. She’s has made a life with this man and is already emotionally invested. It’s extremely difficult and painful for her, as she struggles to figure out what to do.

Why wasn’t I getting reciprocal lovey-doveyness when we were first married? From Disney movies to my favorite shows like “The Office” to practically every pop song released, love is constantly sold as an emotion we have before we’re married.

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She should ask him if he is already married or if his family has arranged a marriage for him to take place in the future. It’s equally important that she safeguards her assets.

There was no way I could keep that dating fire burning as practicality invaded our lives. Something I haven’t wanted to admit for a long time, but is undeniable.

And even worse, it seemed that the harder I tried to be sentimental and lovey-dovey, the less it was reciprocated. Or, once we had a daughter, when I shared the responsibility of watching over her. Because as our marriage progressed, I found myself offering to help out around the house more and more. It took me longer than I care to admit to understand what was happening. Through giving, through doing things for my wife, the emotion that I had been so desperately seeking naturally came about. An emotion that, once had, somehow magically stays within a marriage forever. And I’m saddened to think about how much those messages bounced around in my head for so long.

We all know nothing is absolute except our Creator.

I simply urge all women that if they marry a Pakistani man beware!


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